History student who knows a little about a lot - used to write for Brazilian magazines, and now focuses on study, write at home, volunteer and teach people in need. Brazil, 20, asexual. You'll find a lot of Sherlock Holmes and Shakespeare among other things.
Worst Case vs. Best Case Scenarios by Karina Farek.
This is a great joke, but it’s also a wonderful strategy for reducing anxiety that I learned about in therapy. If you’re ever nervous about something, just ask yourself: what’s the best thing that can happen? What’s the worst thing? What will most likely happen?
It does wonders for your nerves, really does.
My counsellor walks me through this all the time and it works??
I met a baby the other day who taught me that kids aren’t learning the thumb-and-pinky-out gesture for “phone” anymore. She puts her flat, open palm up to her ear and babbles into it, simulating a flat and rectangular smartphone.
It’s so interesting that a lot of seemingly obsolete hand motions still exist, though
very few people wear wristwatches, but tapping one’s wrist is still a nearly universal gesture for “what time is it?” or “hurry up”
I used classic corded phones for only a very brief time in my life (before we got those more rectangular-shaped cordless ones for my parents’ landline) and first saw a car without power windows when I was in college, and yet I’ve always used the pinky-and-thumb gesture for “call me” and the circling-fist gesture for “roll down your window.” I’m 24, so my childhood was the late 90s and early 2000s, but I still use gestures that indicate technology either gone or on its way out when I began forming reliable memories
it also makes me wonder how people indicated time or hurrying before wristwatches. did they somehow pantomime a pocket watch? what gestures have we lost as technology marches on? and since video didn’t exist for most of human history, how might we learn what they were? like the contents of the third Georgian spice jar or the location of Punt, nobody would think to write any of it down
I just love history so much
The ASL sign for phone is based on the pinky-and-thumb gesture. Presumably that will continue on for a while, with future generations seeing it as an arbitrary sign.
And then there are words like “rewind” that no longer make literal sense. Filmmakers still use “cut” long after actual physical film that can be cut fell out of use. We talk about cutting and pasting on computers and use a floppy disc icon for “save”.
Fossilized metaphors are the best.
So the cool thing about
skeuomorphisms (like the floppy disc icon) is that it’s entire basis is that, originally, the skeuomorph’s form had a resemblance to the literal processes it was referencing but that now they’re not referencing literal processes, but the abstract idea of those processes.
We’re not literally rewinding a tape when we hit rewind on our DVRs or DVD’s. Instead, we understand that to “rewind” is to reverse the playback of the video/audio, often at several times its normal speed. The word has changed from meaning the literal process which resulted in the desired effect to directly meaning the desired effect. This is something that just happens in language over time. I mean, shit, the British call flashlights “Torches” and that makes perfect sense.
Thing is, the only reason it seems weird to us is because we’ve seen and used the original things that the skeuomorphs and gestures are referencing. It’s not just a representation of an abstract idea like saving a file or cutting footage or making a call. We’ve used floppy discs and razors and corded telephone handsets. They were real, commonplace things in our lives and jobs.
It’s weird to us because we’re living in the transition period. It’ll stop being weird once we die and no one is around to remember the original thing.
OH NONNY. I DON’T EVEN HAVE TO THINK ABOUT THIS. I have had the same absolute fave pic for a few years, though I get the tinglies when I see some others! Can I cheat like Sandy and give more than one?? Please???
SCREW IT NONNY I CAN’T HELP MYSELF. You’re getting my top ten!!
(@yorkiepug I’m sorry I made fun of you, it is hard)
1. Okay, my all time fave pic is this one.
THIS ONE RIGHT HERE. Gingerbatch? CHECK. FRECKLES?? CHECK. ADORABLE SMILE????? CHECK!!! BEAUTIFUL HANDS????? AKDLSFHALKSHDF CHECK!!!!! EYES THAT END YOU???? FUCK ME, CHECK!!!! It’s only missing his nose crinkle!! Seriously, I love this pic SO MUCH. SO SO MUCH. IT’s the freckles. I have a thing for freckles, and I love that whoever photographed this, let his natural freckles show rather than hide them. It’s such a natural-looking photo, and it makes me happy so MUCH every time I see it! Honestly, this photo waters my crops. Even in my worst S.A.D. moments, this pic really lifts my spirits. I’m still trying to find a high res version of this pic so that I can make a beautiful print of it. Seriously, you guys have NO idea how much this pic just makes me feel so happy.
2. My fave photoshoot of his is the Vanity Fair 2016 Shoot… OH YOU KNOW WHICH ONE.
THIS ONE RIGHT HERE. That hip sliver does things to my tummy. Like FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFUDGEMUFFINS, I can’t even swear with this photo because it’s so pure and beautiful. UGH he’s so SOFT and beautiful in this and it makes me so happy. Oh and this is the shoot that gave us this:
Just… that sucking motion is doing things to me. Moving on.
3. THE FUCKING UNTAMEABLE HAIR CURL
Just OMG THIS PIC. THIS FUCKING PIC and the loose curl. I love that fucking untameable curl. This is such a lovely pic of him, and it makes me so, so happy. His lips and eyes are SO beautiful and just that damned curl just is in every photo from this shoot and it makes me so happy. I love that fucking curl like it’s my child and it makes me sad that Ben doesn’t.
4. The Star Trek Into Darkness Shoot
I FUCKING LOVE THIS PHOTO. Just this hoodie and jacket combo REALLY REALLY suits him, and his cheekbones are SO BEAUTIFUL in this one. GUUUUUUHHH.
5. HIS DORKY GOOFY FACE
OMG this photo makes me SO happy. I love this one SO MUCH. The goofy eyebrow and face, while wearing a suit. Ben is SO SILLY, I wish he let himself be this silly all the time. This photo is so precious!!
6. SOFT SLY LOOK
AAAAAWWWWWWW I love when he looks at the camera under his eyes. He looks so innocent and precious. This one especially is so lovely.
7. AND THIS TIME… WITH STUBBLE
Ben’s inability to grow facial hair is so precious, so when we get pics of his with his actual facial hair, it’s so BEAUTIFUL because his natural hair colour can be seen and it makes me happy. AND said natural hair colour makes his eyes SO SO green and I LOVE IT.
8. THE SMILE THAT CRINKLES HIS EYES
FUCK THIS PHOTO. THIS ONE CURED MY ROSACEA (I wish it really did, but FUCK gosh). He’s SO precious, and I LOVE those crinkles SO MUCH. When he’s smiling genuinely, his WHOLE FACE just crinkles and scrunches and it makes me so happy.
9. THE BEN TUMMY TUM TUM
ASDFADF This photo is so Lovely. Not sure if it’s an actual photoshoot or one that caught him unawares, but his stretch right on his tiptoes and the reveal of his tummy just makes me happy. AND JEANS. GAWD I love jeans on this man. Please, more photos of Ben in jeans.
10. The OUT Photo Shoot.
BUT THIS ONE ESPECIALLY. THAT FUCKING SWEATER. That hole is driving me crazy and all I want to do is rip off his shirt.
Anyway, thanks for coming to my TED Talk, I nearly died searching my 2,000+ photos of Ben on my hard drive. :| I’m not creepy or anything.
His fucking feet in this are doing things to me I can’t fully explain using human words.
I can post pictures but someone PLEASE add the Flaunt photo shoot!! And that Annie Lebowitz shot. JFC…THAT PICTURE!!!
etoileetiolee added: Amazing answer to an amazing question. Might I add my personal favorite?
yorkiepug added: STEPH you cheater! I might have posted more than one pic, but mine were all from the same shoot!! (No worries nonny, I can take a little teasing 😉)
If anyone cares my fav Ben photo are the B&W S3 shots
Oops how’d Martin get in there too??
almosttomorocco added: I… I am quite warm now. Phew. Thanks, Steph
MY GOD THAT SWEATER PIC.
inneisme added: Ahhhhh, that first pic is a GOOD picture *swooms*
ASDFASDF “Feet” hahahhahah! Thank you for these beautiful additions! :)
I’m really disappointed that no one invited me to this Ben party. It’s fine, though. Really. No big deal. I’ll just be over here with my thousands of Ben pictures by myself.
Uh, SAME @lawyermargo! I want to squee, scream, and salivate over this boy as much as the next person! retreats in sorrow to several highly organized Benedict pic file folders with names like hand porn and brow wrinkles and kill me now
@bakingsherlycakes This is one of the many reasons we are friends. Organizing Ben pics by body part? I’m here for this.
Right now, I’m sifting through 50+ applications for a new entry-level position. Here’s some advice from the person who will actually be looking at your CV/resume and cover letter:
‘You must include a cover letter’ does not mean ‘write a single line about why you want this position’. If you can’t be bothered to write at least one actual paragraphs about why you want this job, I can’t be bothered to read your CV.
Don’t bother including a list of your interests if all you can think of is ‘socialising with friends’ and ‘listening to music’. Everyone likes those things. Unless you can explain why the stuff you do enriches you as a person and a candidate (e.g. playing an instrument or a sport shows dedication and discipline) then I honestly don’t care how you spend your time. I won’t be looking at your CV thinking ‘huh, they haven’t included their interests, they must have none’, I’m just looking for what you have included.
Even if you apply online, I can see the filename you used for your CV. Filenames that don’t include YOUR name are annoying. Filenames like ‘CV - media’ tell me that you’ve got several CVs you send off depending on the kind of job advertised and that you probably didn’t tailor it for this position. ‘[Full name] CV’ is best.
USE. A. PDF. All the meta information, including how long you worked on it, when you created it, times, etc, is right there in a Word doc. PDFs are far more professional looking and clean and mean that I can’t make any (unconscious or not) decisions about you based on information about the file.
I don’t care what the duties in your previous unrelated jobs were unless you can tell me why they’re useful to this job. If you worked in a shop, and you’re applying for an office job which involves talking to lots of people, don’t give me a list of stuff you did, write a sentence about how much you enjoyed working in a team to help everyone you interacted with and did your best to make them leave the shop with a smile. I want to know what makes you happy in a job, because I want you to be happy within the job I’m advertising.
Does the application pack say who you’ll be reporting to? Can you find their name on the company website? Address your application to them. It’s super easy and shows that you give enough of a shit to google something. 95% of people don’t do this.
Tell me who you are. Tell me what makes you want to get up in the morning and go to work and feel fulfilled. Tell me what you’re looking for, not just what you think I’m looking for.
I will skim your CV. If you have a bunch of bullet points, make every one of them count. Make the first one the best one. If it’s not interesting to you, it’s probably not interesting to me. I’m overworked and tired. Make my job easy.
“I work well in a team or individually” okay cool, you and everyone else. If the job means you’ll be part of a big team, talk about how much you love teamwork and how collaborating with people is the best way to solve problems. If the job requires lots of independence, talk about how you are great at taking direction and running with it, and how you have the confidence to follow your own ideas and seek out the insight of others when necessary. I am profoundly uninterested in cookie-cutter statements. I want to know how you actually work, not how a teacher once told you you should work.
For an entry-level role, tell me how you’re looking forward to growing and developing and learning as much as you can. I will hire genuine enthusiasm and drive over cherry-picked skills any day. You can teach someone to use Excel, but you can’t teach someone to give a shit. It makes a real difference.
This is my advice for small, independent orgs like charities, etc. We usually don’t go through agencies, and the person reading through the applications is usually the person who will manage you, so it helps if you can give them a real sense of who you are and how you’ll grab hold of that entry level position and give it all you’ve got. This stuff might not apply to big companies with actual HR departments - it’s up to you to figure out the culture and what they’re looking for and mirror it. Do they use buzzwords? Use the same buzzwords! Do they write in a friendly, informal way? Do the same! And remember, 95% of job hunting (beyond who you know and flat-out nepotism, ugh) is luck. If you keep getting rejected, it’s not because you suck. You might just need a different approach, or it might just take the right pair of eyes landing on your CV.
And if you get rejected, it’s worthwhile asking why. You’ve already been rejected, the worst has already happened, there’s really nothing bad that can come out of you asking them for some constructive feedback (politely, informally, “if it isn’t too much trouble”). Pretty much all of us have been hopeless jobseekers at one point or another. We know it’s shitty and hard and soul-crushing. Friendliness goes a long way. Even if it’s just one line like “your cover letter wasn’t inspiring" at least you know where to start.
And seriously, if you have any friends that do any kind of hiring or have any involvement with that side of things, ask them to look at your CV with a big red pen and brutal honesty. I do this all the time, and the most important thing I do is making it so their CV doesn’t read exactly like that of every other person who took the same ‘how-to-get-a-job’ class in school. If your CV has a paragraph that starts with something like ‘I am a highly motivated and punctual individual who–’ then oh my god I AM ALREADY ASLEEP.
Very good post thanks for this.
Excellent advice for building and submitting job application documents.
This is the first good resume advice post I’ve seen on this site. Much better advice than the “lists of active verbs to use” and “here are resume templates”. Follow this advice.